Saturday, January 9, 2021

#BawalJudgemental: Heal the hearts of the abused


Wazzup Pilipinas!

You're in a relationship to be happy, to smile, to laugh, and to make good memories. Not to be constantly upset, to feel hurt and to cry.

Today's episode of #BawalJudgmental about domestic abuse hits so close to home. Akala ko okay na ko, pero triggered pa rin ako every time nakakarinig ako ng ganitong stories. 

How could people -- a supposed life partner at that -- physically, emotionally, mentally abuse their other half? Bottomline, no one should resort to violence just because you're drunk, sad, angry or whatever.

To everyone reading this, please know your worth and don't forget to love yourself.

Ang bigat ng #BawalJudgmental episode today. Naiiyak at nadudurog puso ko habang pinakikinggan yung napagdaanan nila. Let this be a lesson to all girls out there, that you shouldn't lose respect to yourselves  and never let any man hurt you just because you love them.

We all deserve to be loved so sa lahat diyan na nakakaranas ng abuse, please don't be afraid to leave that kind of set up. We all deserve better. We all deserve someone to treat and love us more than the way we want to be treated and be loved. 

"Mahal na mahal ko eh." I never knew these words would hurt so so so much. To the girl reading this, you deserve someone who would love you so so much and would never ever hurt you. So if it's hard already, if you are hurting and can't take it anymore, leave the unfair relationship. 

The stories today on #BawalJudgmental highlight the toxicity of Philippine society's OVERemphasis on the family.

Ayaw magkaroon ng broken family pero at the expense of personal safety and sanity. Luh.

NEVER. EVER. SETTLE. FOR. LESS. WE. ALL. DESERVE. MUCH. MUCH. BETTER! 

Today's #BawalJudgmental should also emphasize the importance of mental health.

Issuance of marriage licenses should require psychiatric exams/evaluation.

It's not easy being a woman who's with an abusive man. Ladies, please love yourself. Never be afraid to let go if he is not treating you right anymore. Again, love yourself.  

It is better to break your own heart by leaving an abusive relationship, rather than having that person breaking your heart every day. 

Laban lang para sa ating matatapang! Magiging okay din ang lahat. 


Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, its the place where we find the deepest heartache.  

It's the people you love the most ang kaya talagang makapanakit sa iyo ng todo.

Wiping people away from our lives is the hardest thing to, do but we have to in order to grow, to be happy and in order to find what we truly deserve. Remember we should never settle for less than what we deserve. KNOW YOUR WORTH and KNOW WHEN IT'S TIME TO LEAVE. 

Also, please do not be afraid to file a case against your abusive partner. PAO provides indigent litigants free legal assistance, kaya huwag niyo isipin na 'walang pera' to file a case. 

That is, only if you've tried everything to make the relationship work. Know your limits. Know when enough is enough.

What’s sad is that some do not even realize they’re in abusive relationships. 

Sticking to your partners despite abuse because of the reason,”what about the kids” is wrong. When your partner does not treat you right, even just verbally, leave. Specially when you have kids. They might not tell you but they suffer a lot, mentally and emotionally.

To all the women: 

YOU ARE WORTH IT. 

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 

Men, if you can’t be a responsible partner or father, do not enter a relationship. 

Heal all the hearts of these people who experienced abuse.

Alden's question "Ano sa tingin mo ang pagkukulang mo kaya siya naging ganun?" reeks of low-key victim blaming.

But panoorin ninyo muna ang buong video ng question niya ..Yung doctor na din nagsabi na minsan ay may pagkukulang din yung babae kaya na-curious si Alden at naitanong niya sa contestant..Huwag agad judgemental? Lol

#BawalJudgmental 


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